Gordon Neufeld quotes

Digital intimacy ruins the appetite for the real thing. So, when kids are gaming or even when spouses are gaming, they lose their appetite for genuine intimacy. Kids lose their appetite for getting their intimacy needs, their hunger for significance and attachment, with the family, and it erodes the relationship between them and their parents. (Gordon Neufeld)
Many people think that discipline is the essence of parenting. But that isn't parenting. Parenting is not telling your child what to do when he or she misbehaves. Parenting is providing the conditions in which a child can realize his or her full human potential. View quote
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Children need to trust and depend upon those who are responsible for them. View quote
Gordon Neufeld
I started my career in parent education with the idea that we needed to let our kids go. I believed that parents were suffocating for their children. There was no room for individuality and personhood. View quote
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Children learn best when they like their teacher and they think their teacher likes them. View quote
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The digital playground is an incredibly cruel playground. View quote
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Attachment is the most powerful force in the universe. We are meant to learn in the context of attachment about what we are attached to, and the things that serve our attachment needs. View quote
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We used to think that schools built brains. Now we know that it is play that builds the brains that school can then use. View quote
Gordon Neufeld
Peer attachments are not the problem themselves. It's when they compete with adult attachments that the problems emerge. It's just like when siblings get attached to each other. If they start revolving around each other, then the parents can't do anything with them because it's a competing attachment. View quote
Gordon Neufeld

Gordon Neufeld

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Occupation: Canadian Psychologist
Born: 1947
Quotes count: 9