Gavin de Becker quotes

Only human beings can look directly at something, have all the information they need to make an accurate prediction, perhaps even momentarily make the accurate prediction, and then say that it isn't so. (Gavin de Becker)
intuition is always right in at least two important ways; It is always in response to something. it always has your best interest at heart. View quote
Gavin de Becker
It is understandable that the perspectives of men and women on safety are so different - men and women live in different worlds. [...] At core, men are afraid women will laugh at them, while at core, women are afraid men will kill them. View quote
Gavin de Becker
Most men fear getting laughed at or humiliated by a romantic prospect while most women fear rape and death. View quote
Gavin de Becker
Denial is a save now, pay later scheme. View quote
Gavin de Becker
Niceness is a decision, a strategy of social interaction; it is not a character trait. View quote
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I encourage people to remember that "no" is a complete sentence. View quote
Gavin de Becker
At core, men are afraid women will laugh at them, while at core, women are afraid men will kill them. View quote
Gavin de Becker
There's a lesson in real-life stalking cases that young women can benefit from learning: persistence only proves persistence-it does not prove love. The fact that a romantic pursuer is relentless doesn't mean you are special-it means he is troubled. View quote
Gavin de Becker
No” is a word that must never be negotiated, because the person who chooses not to hear it is trying to control you. View quote
Gavin de Becker
The unsolicited promise is one of the most reliable signals because it is nearly always of questionable motive. (Gavin de Becker)